We thought that our coach was the best or the greatest, or the smartest, but deep down we knew that he lacked confidence. Sometimes it takes a moment to recognize your own lack of confidence. Here are six ways that you can use when a coach lacks confidence to get the job done.
Let Them Know
Let your players and teammates know what you need from them. Have an open conversation and let them know that you expect and demand great results. If you are expecting your team to do better than they have in the past, then tell them so. You will be amazed at how quick they will come to understand.
Do your research. You need to be good at asking the right questions. Do not limit yourself to asking what you want to hear. Be willing to look at other options and solutions to reach your desired result. Your coach will appreciate your willingness to get outside the box.
Set goals. Do not assume that your team is working together. Take a good look at each member of your team and list their strengths and weaknesses. Then, based on those lists, figure out how each can best contribute to reaching your overall goals. Give those tasks to each person according to their skill set.
Motivate your team. Your entire team needs to feel like they are part of the success of the team. Confidence and belief are contagious. When your team believes that they are a valuable part of a project, they will act that way in every aspect of the project. That includes reaching goals.
Remember Your Goal
Your goal may be to develop trust and confidence between the members of your team. Or, it may be to get them to understand the concept of working as a unit. Regardless of the goal, your coach should be clear and concise with his or her expectations. Let him or her know what you hope to gain from the experience and let him or her see that the goal will be well met.
Seek support. It is easy to let your coach know that you cannot handle a certain project or task. This will only create more tension and create the very issues you wish to avoid. Therefore, if you have issues or concerns about a certain area of the project, find support for the coach from others on your team. The support from the others will help your coach to see the importance of your concerns and how he or she can best provide you with the answers you need. Not only that, it will also show your coach that you are confident enough in your abilities and in your ability to work with others to reach your goals.
Be Confident In What You Are Doing
When a coach lacks confidence, he or she is displaying the very qualities that are causing the problem in the first place. If you want to avoid the issues or concerns about performance or communication that can sabotage your performance efforts, you have to be confident in what you are doing. If you cannot display that confidence, your coach will not be able to either. When a coach lacks confidence, he or she is exhibiting behaviors that say: “I am not good enough,” “I do not matter,” “My opinion doesn’t matter” or “I am no good.”
When a coach lacks confidence, it is his or her job to restore that confidence. The best way to do that is by providing positive reinforcement for actions that are being taken and pointing out the successes of those actions. This can only happen if the coach understands the importance of communicating with his or her team and understands how to communicate in a way that encourages cooperation rather than competition. Once the confidence is back, the coach will likely notice a difference in the way that he communicates and works with his team, which can lead to a more successful career.